Wonderful life

I have been thinking quite a bit about the movie It’s a Wonderful Life.  I was wondering if I was not here how things would have been different for the people in my life.  Would their life be better, worse or have remained the same? I know in the movie he has an angel come to his aid and I don’t have that. Also, I can’t really go back in time and so there is no way to really determine what life would have been like. It would have been different as it could have been no other way. Weather it would be better or worse I would have no idea.

I did ask my husband, Alan, if he had ever had thought about the movie, It’s a Wonderful Life and how his life could have been different if he made other choices. He told me he had not thought of it in regards to the movie. He thought more "what if" he had made some choices different earlier in life. He enjoys hockey, most out of all sports, and he said he sometimes thinks about “what if” he had learned to ice skate and play hockey. He said he has thought it would have been nice to come up the ranks and eventually play for the Los Angeles Kings, his favorite team. He told me he also imagines he would still have met me, but through going to single adult activities at church in California. He would have kept it private that he was a hockey player and surprised me by getting me a seat at the LA Kings game sitting right behind the goal net.

 I asked, “Why there?”
He replied, "I would have been the goal tender.” 

What I learned through asking my husband about the “what if” things were different is that he would have enjoyed a different life, but he would want to enjoy it with me. I am happy for my choice in an eternal marriage companion. He has been my best friend for over 30 years and I often forget how much he loves me. It melts my heart just to know he would not have changed a thing if it meant not meeting me. He has dreams and “what if” moments too and I often think men don’t and I find they do.

I have decided I don’t need “what if” moments as I have made a great choice in a husband and provider. My life is just as it should be and it is My Wonderful Life.